The Family News Letter Vol. 4 |
About the Picture
The photo I chose for this
newsletter is one of the more interesting family snaps in my mother's
collection. For several years I've been trying to find out the
identities of some of the people shown here and until now all I had was conjecture. This is more than an ordinary photo. It is what I
would call an event photo because I believe subjects are gathered together
for what might be a special family occasion.
Genealogists deal with facts,
carefully sifting through birth marriage and probate records for scraps of
information that may uncover a link to new branches on the family
tree. But our family history is not just about birth, marriage, and death
but about the more ordinary things that make us who we are. It is
unavoidable for me to wonder what these people were like and to attempt
to explore the human element without overly glorifying them at the same
time.
My guess here is that this is a family photo taken around 1932. Let's begin with the one person I can positively identify and that is my grandfather, John Duffy kneeling in the lower right corner of the picture. Judging from Mother's other family pictures I believe the young man holding the dog is Joe Mallon, and to his right is his brother Pat Mallon of that I am reasonably sure. Since I am reasonably sure about the two Mallon children I am confident that also present in the photo are the two younger brothers John and Malachy Mallon (b.15 June 1922). Malachy would be about ten years old and that seems to be a plausible assumption.
Recently I asked my cousin Bridie Skeffington in Reaskmore if she could possibly help with identifying others in the photo and she was able to help with the people in the upper row. Many thanks Bridie. From L to R are: Frank Bigley, Pat Cush (Bridie's father), unidentified, Mick Cush, and Patrick McDonald's father John McDonald. Since Pat Cush and his father Old Mick are in the photo, I am assuming that standing between them is Alice Cush, who was my mother's Godmother and at some later date I hope to verify this to be true.
Many thanks to the folks here and in Ireland especially cousins Bridie Skeffington and Brendan Duffy for their help with this newsletter.
Here and There - The Mallon and Duffy Families Part 2
When writing about family history I sometimes question my ability to write
about people and places of which I have little or no memories. After all,
it was my mother who was the link between the generations both here and in
Ireland and how much can I add to that. I take some consolation in the
fact that I have become the link to the next generation and embrace the task
of preserving what I know about those that preceded me in the hope that it
will be of some value in the years to come. What is recorded here is by no
means definitive, but rather an honest effort to bring together the facts as
I understand them to be, as well as the family history related to me by my
mother. If there are errors I apologize and I will
endeavor to correct them as I find them. History, whether
it is family or otherwise is a constant effort to be precise with the facts,
but since there are few firsthand sources left to draw from, I will proceed
with what is available and present them as I find them.
As a child I had little understanding of the family tree here with the exception of my Uncle John Duffy, my mother's brother who preceded her entry to America by six months in 1929. Duffys Here attempts to put together a picture of the Duffy family that came to America at the beginning of 1911 with Michael Duffy. Before I do that, a brief look at the family tree in Drumnafern, County Tyrone Ireland. For our purposes, the story of the Duffy family will begins sometime between 1864 and 1865 when Daniel Duffy the son of William Duffy marries Ann Mallon. At this point I am not sure where Ann Mallon is in the Mallon family tree but I do know that the Duffy's and Mallons have a strong relationship which is evidenced in several intermarriages including my grandparents John Duffy and Alice Mallon. I am still researching the time and place where their marriage took occurred. After the birth of James Duffy on 19 August Baptized 21 Aug 1866 (Kileeshil Parish), Ann dies a month later on 17 September 1866 most likely from complications of child birth. On 14 June 1866 Daniel Duffy marries for the second time to Bridget the daughter of Thomas Kelly in Drumnafern, County Tyrone, Ireland. There is an obvious and unexplained discrepancy between James Duffy's birth and Daniel Duffy's marriage to Bridget Kelly both of which have been sourced to Ireland marriage and birth registers. James Duffy would marry Mary Ann Keating on 16 Nov 1915 in Clonfeacle, Tyrone Ireland, and after raising a family would pass away on 13 September 1926.
The descendants of Daniel Duffy and Bridget Kelly are:
Thomas Duffy - baptized on 12 May 1868 and died at age 6 in 1874.
William Duffy - baptized 4 June 1870 his death is as yet unrecorded.
John Duffy - my grandfather and the oldest surviving son was born on 6 November 1872 and baptized 20 November 1872.
Daniel Duffy - born 5 January 1875 and baptized 6 January 1875. He later leaves home and finds work as a tram operator in Duncairn, Antrim County.
Terence Duffy - born 23 April 1877 and baptized 24 April 1877 will follow his younger brother Michael to New York in 1915. Both will marry before the end of the decade.
Patrick Duffy - born 21 November 1879 and baptized 22 November 1879. He dies just before his third birthday in 1882.
Michael Duffy - born and baptized 30 April 1882, leaves for New York in 1911 (before the Irish Census of 1911).
Mary Ann Duffy - born 5 September 1886 the only daughter, will marry James Mallon in 1911 forging a stronger relationship with the Mallon family.
Duffys There:
Mary Ann Duffy Mallon 1886 - 1922 Reaskmore Co. Tyrone
Mary
Ann Duffy daughter of Daniel Duffy and Bridget Kelly marries James Mallon bet.
July and September of 1911.
The children of James and Mary Ann are:
Joseph Mallon 1913 - 26 Mar 1991
Patrick Mallon 28 Aug 1917 - 10 Nov 1989
- Adopted
John Mallon 1919
- 14 Jul 1986
Malachy Mallon 15 Jun 1922 - Jun 1971
I believe the four Mallon children are pictured in the banner picture above with grandfather John Duffy to the right. Patrick was adopted by the Mallon family and raised as one of their own. My mother and her family often referred to him as "Our Pat". Mary Ann Mallon died of complications of child birth on 15 June 1922. Young Malachy, shown below with his cousins Sarah, Rose, and Bridget was later adopted by his Uncle Mick Duffy and wife and went to live with them in Scotland. The likeness between my mother and her Aunt Mary Ann is remarkable.
James Duffy - Reaskmore Co. Tyrone
Sadly, although I never had the opportunity of meeting my Aunt Sara, I
did however have the pleasure of meeting my Uncle Jimmy and wife Maureen in the
summer of 1988 with my family. A little more than an hour’s
trip from Reaskmore to the coastal town of Bangor, brought us to a modest but
lovely home by the coast on the Irish Sea. My mother once
told me that her brother Jimmie had at one time or another had Republican ties
which put her at odds with him. But if there were any
differences between them, I was at a loss to see it. What I
did see was an unconditional love and respect they shared for one another.
Uncle Jimmie drove a cab for a living by day, and collected and repaired clocks in his spare time. He truly loved his life and his family. Jimmie and Aunt Maureen together had I believe seven children two of which, Geraldine and Brian were present on the day we visited. Geraldine is closer to my brother Ed’s age while Brian was was a bit older. Brian was a good fellow, amiable and good natured, and the children took to him immediately. We would learn of Brian’s passing nearly a decade later.
James Duffy would pass away on 30 Sep 1996 but
mother would not be there to say goodbye. Her own health
was failing and she much too frail to travel. My Aunt
Maureen would survive her husband and pass away at the age of 96 on 25 Nov
2012.
Rose Duffy - Reaskmore Co. Tyrone
Mother
spoke of her sister Rose from time to time, and the profound affect her
premature death had upon herself and her family. Rose was the oldest daughter,
adorned with flaming red hair, slightly plump and full of energy. As such,
my grandmother depended upon her assistance with the household chores and care
of the farm animals. She was in charge in her mother’s absence and had the
respect of her brothers and sisters. On a summer’s afternoon in August, while
her father John and her mother Alice were away visiting a neighbor the
unthinkable happened. Cousins John and Henry Mallon had stopped by the house to
visit and Rose prepared some tea and stepped into the next room to brush her
hair. What happened next was related to me by my mother and many years
later, confirmed by a newspaper clipping sent to me by my cousins in Reaskmore.
They heard a commotion in the next room and Henry
called out to her but received no answer. At that point her brother
John Duffy and returned home and asked where she was. Henry and John
went to see what happened and found Rose slumped on the floor “in a faint”
and the boys helped carry her to the front room. The young girl was
unresponsive and Henry feared the worst. Rose Duffy, age fifteen had
succumbed to a massive heart attack, a condition that would plague
both Mallons and Duffys as our family history confirms.
And so it was a great shock to John and Alice
Duffy who at the beginning of the day left their daughter in perfect health,
were planning her burial the very same time the following day. To make
matters worse, the medical coroner would require evidence as to the cause of
death thereby causing more angst for the family. The matter of this
and subsequent events I will leave to the accompanying newspaper article
which appeared in the Tyrone Courier. There is no way to tell how
different my mother’s life would have been had Rose grown to maturity, but
it was evident that her path had changed forever and from this point on
Bridget was the eldest daughter and acquired all the responsibilities that
went with it. In the picture to the left taken in 1922, Rose is
holding young Malachy Duffy, on the left is Sara Duffy and Bridget Duffy is
to the right feeding the lamb.
The Tyrone Courier 9 August 1925 PDF
Sarah Duffy - Reaskmore Co. Tyrone
Oddly
enough it seems as though I am a bit more familiar with Aunt Sarah in a peculiar
sort of way as a result of the letters she wrote to mother over the years.
Sarah Duffy married Patrick Cush in the early summer of 1942. The Cush
family were longtime neighbors and friends with the Duffy family and so it was
considered a good match for the couple. Patrick Cush was seventeen years
her senior and well established in the community.
On the first day of
December 1931 my mother’s uncle James Mallon passed away leaving his wife
through a second marriage and three young children to manage the family
farm. Sarah (McGirr) Mallon was ill suited for such an undertaking and
planned to sell the farm in order to settle the estate and move to more
affordable accommodations. This of course sent shock waves through the
family when they realized that the land that had been in the family for
generations, would in all probability pass on to outsiders. The Mallon
and Duffy families wished to retain the land that had been in the family for
generations, and it was their hope that John Mallon would return from
Glasgow and take control of the property.
The period we call the Great Depression came much
earlier to Ireland and was perhaps more severe and there was little money to
be had, not to mention for the purchase of land. My mother and her
brother John helped to send some of their savings in order to help settle
the estate and insure that Sarah and the children were secure financially.
Patrick Cush would make the necessary repairs and
upgrades to the house and sent the progress reports to mother. It is my
opinion that Pat Cush was as good as anything he set his mind on
accomplishing. He would later build the house that he and Sarah would raise
their family across the road from the ancestral family home on Reaskmore.
Patrick’s efforts at home as well as the contributions of mother and John
Duffy secure the Mallon property which is still in their name today.
Sarah and Patrick Cush raised a family of four
children. Their oldest Michael, (died in infancy), and Cecilia ,
Patrick and Bridget. Pat and Sarah would eventually take control of
managing the family farm on Reaskmore as John Duffy was entering his seventh
decade and also recovering from a broken leg making it more difficult to
interact on a daily basis. Grandmother Alice would pass away on 2
December 1942 after a protracted illness left her disabled and very weak.
Through the years grandmother would write as
often as twice weekly until crippling disease made it impossible, in which
case she would dictate to Aunt Sarah. Sarah herself would continue to write
until she herself was incapacitated and her daughter Cecilia would do the
same. Patrick Cush would pass away around 1958, and Sarah would survive him
by nearly twenty five years and become increasingly dependent upon her son
and daughters. It is my regret that I never had the chance to meet my
aunt and uncle, but their children are their greatest legacy.
Duffys Here:
Michael Duffy New York, NY April 17, 1911
Admittedly there is little to pass along about
Michael and Bridget Duffy other than what I have been able to piece together
from the smidgens of information gathered from US Census sheets and
passenger lists. Michael worked with his brother Daniel in Antrim as a
tram operator before leaving for New York. He arrived in New York on
8 April 1911 a passenger
aboard the SS Laurentic. He married Bridget Tuohey born in Cork
Ireland, the daughter of John Tuohey and Nora Tigott in St Monica's church
on 10 Aug 1919. According to the Census for the years 1930 - 1940 they
had a daughter Beatrice born in 1920, and a son named Daniel born around
July of 1928. After the death of his brother Terence in December of
1939, the couple adopted and raised young Evelyn. Her story is related
in Terance and Elizabeth's story below. Michael found employment with
the New York City Sanitation Department, where he worked for many years.
He passed away sometime in the early to mid 1960's in his eighties. I realize there is lack of
perspective regarding Michael and Bridget and I am hoping someday I will
have more to add to the first of their generation to come to America.
Terence Duffy Bronx, NY October 20, 1913
Terence Duffy and Elizabeth Callan were married on 6 June 1918 at Corpus Christi Church in Manhattan, New York City. Terance was born on 23 Apr 1877 in Drumanafern, Tyrone, Ireland, the son of Daniel Duffy and Bridget Kelly
Elizabeth Callan was the daughter of Luke Callan and
Elizabeth Sherry born between Oct-Dec 1895 in
Castleblayney, Monaghan, Ireland. Elizabeth is one of four children,
three girls and one boy
(Family Chart) and the Callan family appears in the Census of Ireland
for 1901 and
1911. The
Census for 1901 shows that Elizabeth, a farmer, is a widow and head of the
family. The twenty year old Elizabeth arrived in the Port of New York on 7
October 1915 aboard the SS Cameronia.
Terence and Elizabeth experienced the birth of their
first child Sarah on 18 November 1919, but lost her early the following year
on 1 March 1920,
due to influenza. I believe that the picture to the left is of Sarah and
her parents in early 1920 before her death. Terence and Elizabeth had
four other children between 1920 and 1930 Terence 1920, Luke 1923 (my
Godfather), James 1925, and Jean Evelyn 1929. Elizabeth did in Lincoln
Hospital on 2 October 1934 the cause of death is listed as Incomplete
Abortion Septicemia (possible miscarriage). She was only 38 years old.
Terence worked for the Department of Highways until his death on 19 December
1939.
After the death of their father the three boys were
taken in by a family friend named
Patrick McCool
where they remained until their respective enlistments in the Navy during
WW2. I remember meeting Mr. McCool a least once during the summer of
1961 at his farm in Poughkeepsie, NY. My mother and I took to the road
with my Uncle John Duffy, and visited with Evelyn and her husband Joe Boyle.
I still remember it as a very pleasant experience over fifty years later.
I don't ever remember meeting Terence or James Duffy, but heard about them
many times in conversation between my mother and My Uncle Luke. Uncle
Luke and Aunt Pat (McGeney) were my God Parents, and I probably saw them
more than any other Duffy. I loved them both, and thought of them as
such opposites of personalities that just somehow complemented each other to
no end. My impression was that Aunt Pat was a plain spoken no holds
barred individual, while Uncle Luke was much more laid back and slow to
anger. My parents could not have picked a finer couple to serve as my
sponsors.
Evelyn's experience was less joyous, having been
taken in by her Uncle Mick and Aunt Bridget Duffy. A story as related
to me by my Aunt Evelyn was that her Aunt Biddy mistreated her and but
for the intervention of my mother, her mistreatment would have remained
unchallenged. There was an unmistakable bond between the two ever
after. In the Summer of 1962 while visiting the Gallagan family in
Windsor Place Brooklyn, I met "Aunt Biddy" she was a very spontaneous
individual and due to my lack of maturity and poise I found it difficult to
relate to her. This is less of a criticism and more of a latter day
observation on my part. I adored my Aunt Evelyn, and I remember as a
child attending her wedding to Joe Boyle in East New York at seven years of
age. It was my opinion that she was the most beautiful woman I knew,
with a loving personality to match. Evelyn is the very image of her
mother.
John Duffy - Brooklyn NY March 6, 1929
Early one bitterly cold March morning in 1963 my mother woke me gently and
told me that my Uncle John Duffy had passed away. This morning we
would both be attending 6:30 mass to pray for the soul of her oldest brother.
John was the second of her siblings to pass away, her older sister Rose
having tragically died years earlier from a heart attack at fourteen years
of age. My mother was heartbroken, even though she knew he was ill and
it was only a question of time before the ravages of cancer would take him.
It was not at all helpful that she and her brother's wife Anne were not
speaking at the time. But feelings would have to be put aside and protocols
of respect for the dead as well as the living would be followed.
Some of my fondest early memories were the trips with my family to visit with the Gallagan family on Windsor Place in Brooklyn. Andrew Galligan and Beatrice, Anne's sister, were regarded as family and the fact that the relationship was more than that was a testament to loving personalities. At the time I was much too young to understand the divisions that had taken place
between my mother and her sister-in-law Anne. According to my mother,
much of what kept hem at odds was the family property in Reaskmore which for
all intents and purposes was to pass to her sister Sarah and Pat Cush according to the
wishes of her late father who passed away in August of 1962.
Bridget Vera Duffy New York, NY December 7, 1929
My
mother Bridget Duffy, was born on the family farm on Reaskmore Road near the
town of Dungannon, Tyrone Ireland on the 29th day of March 1912. At the time,
her father John Duffy was already engaged in the spring planting making it
difficult to register her birth in the proper time frame as required by law.
Mother always told us she had two birthdays but her birth certificate
only declares March 29 as her proper date of birth.
Mother grew up in a very
close knit agricultural community on Reaskmore Road in Castlecaulfield
Northern Ireland. Reaskmore was a farming community
composed of almost equal amounts of Catholic and Protestant households but
without the turmoil that seemed to prevail in nearby Belfast and
Derry. As my mother recalled later, they needed
each other to survive such difficult circumstances, and it was to the
benefit of both groups to coexist peacefully. Some of my
mother’s neighboring families were Cush, Duggan, Lucas, Mallon, Hylan,
Sherry, and McGrath all known and respected by her family. At
the age of 11, she was sent by her parents to Glasgow to help her Uncle Mick
Mallon and his wife (see below) who was ailing, and needed help with the
work in their small shop. She was given the task of opening the shop
at 5am and accepting the day's dairy and produce deliveries, an
extraordinary responsibility for such a young girl. Every morning the
local policeman would pay her a visit and ask "Is everything all right
lass?" Later from the age of 14 through 17 she would help support her family
by working at a small hotel restaurant in the town of Liphook, England. She
would help serve the tourist clientele traveling south from London to the
cities of Portsmouth and Southampton during the summer months while waiting
for her visa to emigrate to the United States.
Elizabeth (Lizzie) Duggan came to NY around the same time or just after my mother and later married John Lucas also a neighbor. John Lucas worked in the construction business and would eventually be responsible for the development of much of Long Beach, NY in the late 1940’s and early 50’s constructing a house within sight of the Long Beach bridge which linked Island Park and Long Beach Island. One of my earliest memories was riding in the bed of John’s pickup truck with my father and brothers holding on to me so I wouldn’t suddenly take flight and bounce out and onto the road. Of course this is something that would not even be contemplated any more, and it would receive the attention of any highway patrolman within eyesight. On that visit I remember becoming totally infatuated with the piano in the parlor, and of course my compositions had to be curtailed so the grownups could hear one another. Not to be deterred, I slipped out of bed early that morning around 3AM and continued my solo act. Inspiration should be encouraged whenever it presents itself.
The decade of the 1950’s was among the most prosperous ever witnessed by
Americans. After four years of world war and post war
inflation, Americans like my parents settled into what they considered
a more peaceful and predictable lifestyle. I watched
as our parents marched in great numbers in the Armistice and Decoration Day
parades. I took little notice of the subtitle decrease in
numbers with each successive year, until a growing distaste for our own war
produced a cadence of its own on the path to a place called Woodstock.
Memories of the blue airmail letters and rolled up newspapers sent from
Reaskmore are still vivid in my memory and her delight upon receiving them
in the mail. Upon returning home from work in the afternoon, she would brew
a pot of tea, place a Danish pastry on a small plate, and catch up on all
the news from home. It was her favorite time of the day.
It was always mother’s desire to return to her home on Reaskmore Road and
see her parents once more, which she did in 1936, and planned to return a few
years hence. However the war intervened in 1939 and her
subsequent marriage and raising a family canceled
any homecoming plans indefinitely. My mother’s letters from
home are a rich source of information about the day to day life of her family
which provide information about comings and goings births and passings
heretofore unknown. In the intervening years, her mother
would pass away, her brother James and sister Sarah both married and stared families
of their own and it must have been sorrowful to be in a foreign land unable to
share in their joys or give solace and support to those she loved so dearly.
In 1952, as indicated in the letters from Reaskmore, it was my mother’s
wish to return to Ireland as a family, but economics and tensions at home
precluded such efforts and another ten years would slip by.
In March of 1962, her brother John would pass away, and then her father only
weeks before her planned return. She would return three more
times in that decade, and thanks to her son Ed, almost every year thereafter until her final trip
around
1996 at the age of 84. Nothing gave mother more pleasure than
returning year after year, and visiting with family and friends even when with
the passing years fewer of her family and friends were left to greet her.
At the age of 83, mother underwent surgery for defective heart valves and
a cancerous lesion in her bladder and although it was successful she would never
be the same again. Her loss of memory would accelerate and
she would require constant care from my brother Dennis who became her caretaker. Through
the years I would record some of her memories in an effort to preserve them for
posterity. It would be her granddaughter Lauren who would do her
final interview and record it for her children and grandchildren.